Friday, February 25, 2011

Metamorphosis .

We all enter and exit various ponds and pools throughout our lives . It might just be like a bird migrating from her homeland to a far away foreign estate as soon as the suitable season was over and all the benefits that she was availing till then came to a halt.
The inevitable necessity of life is CHANGE. It's something that is bound to take place irrespective of what our fate has planned for us ,and it rather is the very word that rules our stars.It is humanly impossible if we don't change.
We as humans don't adapt to change easily ,we simply refuse to adjust as we all have a habit of digging into reasons concerning the WHAT & WHY of various situations.
We fail to see ourselves transforming ,we can't see our fellow mates maturing ,it irks us to see our surroundings and groups growing and we prefer stagnating ourselves and the running time,once the realisation of all of this takes place. We wish to put everything to a standstill the moment we realise that things wouldn't be the way they have always been and it's then when one wishes to discard the very factor which is responsible for the interesting nature of a person i.e : CHANGE from their life story. We humans are a bunch of emotions and which emotion acts when is something totally unpredictable .How often do we get to hear that we have changed and are not the same as we previously were ??
Believe you me as far as I've observed it's not that one changes it's the external factors and pressures that change , and one just learns to live with them. And this adjustment in the outlook of a preson causes a change in his known self .
We all need personal space as we all have opinions and posses view points which could be good ,bad,wrong or right and to figure out what we truly want, we have to enter our shell and provide ourselves a room for introspection. We have to connect to our conscience to accept the transformation within us . Unexpected people would complain about you going silent or living in your own world ,some would even brand you as a selfish pig ,but let that happen because when you would be ready to turn into a beautiful butterfly from a mere larva you would know the amount of GENUINE and TRUE friends you made during the entire course of time spent with them .The filtered out friends from the mesh of circumstances during the entire period of your metamorphosis would be the ones who would stay by your side your entire life.It's all about growing with people we love and care for,coming down or going up to their level to understand and support them.
Life brings us to a juncture from where we all have to choose from what we have always dreamt off or what others want to see us as?? And it's at points like these where the solitude and understanding of oneself helps .
At the end we all are broke in this world as I say when we die we are not even entitled to carry our own body along with us to enjoy heaven or burn in the fires of hell .

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

sorry ,thank you ,please !

How often do we get to hear words which were once classified as MAGIC ONES and marked the beginning of our courteous being in the fast 21st century ?
Unfortunately, these words have become a RARE symphony to be heard .
These are generally discarded as mere FORMALITIES  which are thought of as unwanted GIRLY dialogues to be uttered by anyone of us .
But if I go deep and analyse ,I observe that at times simply their usage can determine the start or the end of any relationship. I mean HOW WOULD YOU FEEL ??? If someone right away ordered you, taking help of his dominating tone rather than using the word PLEASE to add a milder touch . Imagine ,If you helped someone and did it whole heartedlly and did not recieve a THANK YOU ,maybe the maximum that you wanted and were expecting because as humans we have a tendency to carry expectations .
Or how about somebody managed to hurt you and did not BOTHER to apologise ?? Whereas you were in all mood to settle things out .

Personally, I would feel LOW for not adhereing to any of what I deduced from real life situations.
So here I have a reason for each of these three words ,to convince you about their role in relationships .
I am their spokesperson for tonight and would try and revive their effect in the world we live in today .. 
When somebody is good to you NEVER hesitate to THANK them ,you are not doing it because the person who helped you deserved it but you own the responisibility to make him realise that YOU AWCKNOWLEDGE HIS HELP AND THAT YOU ARE GRATEFUL TO HIM ..
Its all about making someone SMILE or being a reason for their happiness and making them feel special .
Do not erase the extreme value of the CLiched word SORRY .. use it very decisively and generously when required ..
And lastly ,Just remember NONE OF US WOULD WANT TO BE ORDERED ...!! 

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Snatchers,accomodators and helpers !

'Competition' is a natural human instinct which is embedded in our genes since the very time a sperm swims and joins hands with the ovary of a woman .
Now hold your JAW if it has dropped, I mean I realise that whatever I talk about is raw ,crude and in it's purest form as I like observing and penning down everything that exhibits the literal meaning of my name  .
According to the basic general theories of the way humans live- COMPETITION is something without which one cannot possibly take a step forward in their lives .It is something that is inevitable in one's world and if oxygen marks one's breath competition marks one's SURVIVAL .And all learned ones reading this, must have heard of Darwin's idea of "SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST ".
He states in his simpered yet firm tone that "One can only survive if he has the drive to beat others in what they do ". Many of us follow this path and mistake it to be the one leading to our ULIMATE destination called SUCCESS.
We all wish to be famous and known by our peers and surroundings at the cost of losing one's identity and inner self .We seem to forget who we are in this rat race and bargain our conscious on cheap terms so that we can supposedly PROVE it to the WORLD that THIS IS IT .

My friend once told me who was further told by someone that there are always three kinds of people in this world : 1. THE SNATCHERS , 2. THE ACCOMODATORS , and 3. THE HELPERS .
To define them he was told that the former are the ones who take every opportunity that has been awarded to them and also try and grab somebody else's luck to avail their chance , the second are the ones who are satisfied ,contended and happy with what they get and are ready to adjust with their fate .The latter ones are the ones who help both the snatchers and the accomodators climb the ladder at the cost of their own opportunities and to finish the information being provided, he was told that throughout the history it has been proven that ONLY SNATCHERS get to taste sheer SUCCESS AND FULFILL their DREAMS ,and was adviced to be a SNATCHER himself .

I personally don't believe in this room of thought ,I feel that it is more important to be able to stand in front of the mirror and look into your own eyes rather than die of guilt of being mean to someone due to an utter CRAZE of being the BEST .If one needs to compete it should be done with oneself and not with the rest of the world as It is scientifically proven that all of us have a different level of intellegence and are unique  in just the way we are ,keeping in mind our interests and passions.
Competing with someone else is as similar as the colour Pink trying to prove that it is better than Black whereas both have their positive and negative points as well as usage .

At times when I am alone and am enjoying solitude I have various thoughts, ideas ,notions and words crossing my mind like cars crossing the London Bridge going from one side to another and it's at moments like these when I like all of us realised that NOTHING in this universe is OURS ,Not even OUR own body which one can TOTALLY say it's his and absolutely NOBODY has a right on it, as when one dies all one would carry with them would be their soul and nothing else and maybe then one would realise that, that one mark for which one manipulated to beat the other student or that one exam for which one cheated to exceed somebody else's marks wasn't worth it .

Mistakes are something that humans are bound to commit and the fact that I myself have been  a victim of utter competitiveness, has taught me that one TRUELY WINS WHEN ONE MANAGES TO BEAT HIS OWN RECORDS AND IS ABLE TO SET NEW STANDARDS FOR ONESELF.