Monday, September 24, 2012

Venus Meets Mars .

Hola Everyone :)

 It really has been a LONG time since I last blogged and this guilt of not being able to slot a time for my passion has been killing me up and through, until today when I finally decided to ignore all bouts of procrastination and get down to doing what I've been intending to do since quite a while now : Writing.
You see it's not that I didn't have enough life-changing experiences to write about or I lacked valid evidences of how irrational 'we humans' can be, but it's just that once you reach this stage of being in a 'College', life suddenly from a plain, simple car ride gets converted into an adventurous, thrilling roller coaster ride : Well it does turn out to be that ways , for all Law Students at least .

Even though Professional Colleges are poles apart from other normal colleges, and involve a totally different culture but still no matter where you are , especially in India, whether in Delhi, Pune, Bombay or for that matter Chandigarh, there is this syndrome that I would like to term as 'Venus meets Mars Syndrome' which I believe is suffered by almost all of us, in some way or the other, even though the degree of it may vary from person to person.
See the 'Venus meets Mars Syndrome' is basically a syndrome in which any boy and girl who are spotted together on regular basis are presumed to be dating.
And Once if two people fall under this bracket and are noticed, I would just want to say to them 'God Bless You' !

It's funny how people want to westernize and modernize but still keep holding on to that age old philosophy of 'Giving a Damn to what others are doing', I mean somebody wearing a bright Yellow in a crowd of dull colours becomes such a Huge Deal that the poor victim has to reconsider wearing the same outfit the next time whenever she gets the opportunity to do so, and after weighing what would be talked about and go around 'she'd just let it go.
You know honestly, the reason why we are far behind even from the word 'progressing' is because we have all the time in the world to beat behind the bush, worry what the other is doing rather than using that time to better or perfect ourselves.
We have the time to presume what a duet (just friends) may be doing at an isolated place even though they might JUST be talking and getting to know each other ,rather than letting them decide for themselves and allowing them to exercise their freedom of Movement under Article 19 (1) of the Indian Constitution.
(Well that was some legal knowledge to prove that Law Schools do teach you rights before duties :P) .

I dont understand as to why, the youth today cannot accept the fact that a 'girl and a guy can be friends' , and more so 'Good/great friends' , it's not always the vital stats doing the job it's also the feelings that matter, there is a huge difference between liking a person as a "person" and liking a person as a "lover" , and trust me just mere talking or hanging out with a person isnt enough food to judge the depth of one's friendship with the other.
Even though I'd agree to the fact that the 'Teasing business' that the friends of both the boy and the girl get down too is a lot of fun with all "AYYE, We think you guys would make a great couple, or wow ! bro scoring high haan *wink*" being the mantras that manage to work EVERY TIME, but again "why do we care ?", why cant we just let everyone live their life for god sake and concentrate on ours.
Why do somebody's pants or hairstyle become such a tower in our lives, and nevertheless why do "human relations" between the residents of both Venus and Mars are seen at such a "sizzling level".
We generally wouldn't have the time to smile at people and wish them to have a good day but would have the audacity to present two people of the opposite gender engrossed in a conversation, with embarrassing and judgmental 'Lifted eye brows' that would make at least the fairer one go red and pink, all over.
I mean, it's funny seeing , how people have NO respect for people's privacy and are always so excited to know about WHAT is going on in somebody else's life and in the situation being discussed about : "WHAT IS GOING ON BETWEEN THEM ?"

Once the cat is out of the bag and rumors are in the air, people really won't make an effort to wait for a minute and apply their brains on the truth behind the statement but like lifeless and brainless slaves, go on believing and spreading it,  like wild fire.  
Then there are rumors, all sorts of rumors both good- bad, decent-explicit etc. which can totally make the sensitive ones lose their minds and for a while Re-consider befriending their male/female counterpart, simply because nobody likes to be targeted and talked about in negative and low light and that too for something which is completely right and pious, unlike how this darn mean world perceives it as.
The fact is that, men need women and women need men (no pun intended) for the smooth functioning of this world, so in my point of you, I really think that we all should seriously grow up, and surface out from cheap and petty thrills of talking about people and assigning lame reasons like 'they like each other or are dating' by just spotting two young birds together, until they themselves agree to what is being talked about them . 

It really is high time, we get rid of this syndrome because merely looking successful isn't going to make us one, "Stop Giving a Damn" , Winners Don't , We All Do :)

1 comment:

  1. Hello Kudrat, iam glad you started blogging again.I am sure in college you are growing in many ways.Understanding human relations are one of the important things all autonomous people have to learn.It is not easy.It is essential.Hope to see you soon and spend some time with you here in Rhode Island,I am glad that you have very loving parents and extended family who supports you.You are becoming quite an independent thinker.
    kul bhushan