sorry ,thank you ,please !

How often do we get to hear words which were once classified as MAGIC ONES and marked the beginning of our courteous being in the fast 21st century ?

Unfortunately, these words have become a RARE symphony to be heard .

These are generally discarded as mere FORMALITIES  which are thought of as unwanted GIRLY dialogues to be uttered by anyone of us .

But if I go deep and analyse ,I observe that at times simply their usage can determine the start or the end of any relationship. I mean HOW WOULD YOU FEEL ??? If someone right away ordered you, taking help of his dominating tone rather than using the word PLEASE to add a milder touch . Imagine ,If you helped someone and did it whole heartedlly and did not recieve a THANK YOU ,maybe the maximum that you wanted and were expecting because as humans we have a tendency to carry expectations .

Or how about somebody managed to hurt you and did not BOTHER to apologise ?? Whereas you were in all mood to settle things out .

Personally, I would feel LOW for not adhereing to any of what I deduced from real life situations.

So here I have a reason for each of these three words ,to convince you about their role in relationships .

I am their spokesperson for tonight and would try and revive their effect in the world we live in today .. 

When somebody is good to you NEVER hesitate to THANK them ,you are not doing it because the person who helped you deserved it but you own the responisibility to make him realise that YOU AWCKNOWLEDGE HIS HELP AND THAT YOU ARE GRATEFUL TO HIM ..

Its all about making someone SMILE or being a reason for their happiness and making them feel special .

Do not erase the extreme value of the CLiched word SORRY .. use it very decisively and generously when required ..

And lastly ,Just remember NONE OF US WOULD WANT TO BE ORDERED ...!! 

Snatchers,accomodators and helpers !

'Competition' is a natural human instinct which is embedded in our genes since the very time a sperm swims and joins hands with the ovary of a woman .
Now hold your JAW if it has dropped, I mean I realise that whatever I talk about is raw ,crude and in it's purest form as I like observing and penning down everything that exhibits the literal meaning of my name  .
According to the basic general theories of the way humans live- COMPETITION is something without which one cannot possibly take a step forward in their lives .It is something that is inevitable in one's world and if oxygen marks one's breath competition marks one's SURVIVAL .And all learned ones reading this, must have heard of Darwin's idea of "SURVIVAL OF THE FITTEST ".
He states in his simpered yet firm tone that "One can only survive if he has the drive to beat others in what they do ". Many of us follow this path and mistake it to be the one leading to our ULIMATE destination called SUCCESS.
We all wish to be famous and known by our peers and surroundings at the cost of losing one's identity and inner self .We seem to forget who we are in this rat race and bargain our conscious on cheap terms so that we can supposedly PROVE it to the WORLD that THIS IS IT .


My friend once told me who was further told by someone that there are always three kinds of people in this world : 1. THE SNATCHERS , 2. THE ACCOMODATORS , and 3. THE HELPERS .
To define them he was told that the former are the ones who take every opportunity that has been awarded to them and also try and grab somebody else's luck to avail their chance , the second are the ones who are satisfied ,contended and happy with what they get and are ready to adjust with their fate .The latter ones are the ones who help both the snatchers and the accomodators climb the ladder at the cost of their own opportunities and to finish the information being provided, he was told that throughout the history it has been proven that ONLY SNATCHERS get to taste sheer SUCCESS AND FULFILL their DREAMS ,and was adviced to be a SNATCHER himself .


I personally don't believe in this room of thought ,I feel that it is more important to be able to stand in front of the mirror and look into your own eyes rather than die of guilt of being mean to someone due to an utter CRAZE of being the BEST .If one needs to compete it should be done with oneself and not with the rest of the world as It is scientifically proven that all of us have a different level of intellegence and are unique  in just the way we are ,keeping in mind our interests and passions.
Competing with someone else is as similar as the colour Pink trying to prove that it is better than Black whereas both have their positive and negative points as well as usage .


At times when I am alone and am enjoying solitude I have various thoughts, ideas ,notions and words crossing my mind like cars crossing the London Bridge going from one side to another and it's at moments like these when I like all of us realised that NOTHING in this universe is OURS ,Not even OUR own body which one can TOTALLY say it's his and absolutely NOBODY has a right on it, as when one dies all one would carry with them would be their soul and nothing else and maybe then one would realise that, that one mark for which one manipulated to beat the other student or that one exam for which one cheated to exceed somebody else's marks wasn't worth it .


Mistakes are something that humans are bound to commit and the fact that I myself have been  a victim of utter competitiveness, has taught me that one TRUELY WINS WHEN ONE MANAGES TO BEAT HIS OWN RECORDS AND IS ABLE TO SET NEW STANDARDS FOR ONESELF.

The four letter Magic Spell ...!

There are certain emotions ,feelings and words which have their universal usage and it's their very presence in thi world which helps in binding two souls ,two mates and rather two human beings into a bond that "LASTS FOREVER" ,which is eternal . So what is that makes one's life ? What is it that completes the little gap between two admirers and helps them build their own fantasy world  ? What is it that gives a destination to one's dreams ? IS IT THE FOUR LETTER MAGIC SPELL - whose existence in one's life can simply change autumn into spring ??

Yes I AM TALKING ABOUT "LOVE" ,and the complexity behind this mystical word encouraged me to venture and find out what it means - afterall for one it can be JUST SOMETHING and for the other it can be JUST EVERYTHING .

To start with I gathered the guts to ask my really close libran friend who found herself in love with a handsome scorpion boy ,and what she told me about how she felt was amazing as an answer : She blushed  looked at her fair pretty feet and replied "LOVE IS NOT SOMETHING TO BE SAID,ONE DOSEN'T GET A NOTIFICATION OF ONE BEING IN IT OR NOT IT JUST HAPPENS" ,she also added that she always wished to talk to him,thought about him ,no matter what she thought or talked .And to add the cherry to the cake she said that even at times when he was nasty ,she didn't feel like breaking all threads and boarding her own bus instead felt like stitching that torn piece of understanding into a much more stronger emotion.

Also ,18 years of successful marriage of my parents instigated me to question my mother over this delicate issue and what I recieved was the world's most innocent reply , she gave me a smile and answered that to her love was UNDERSTANDING ,she said that the person you feel the most SECURE with is the one you love .To elaborate she proudly stated that the most important component in love is to stand by the person who you claim to be in love through thick and thin and all highs and lows .You need to be his biggest support .

To boost my knowledge about this strange yet the world's most beautiful feeling my best friend commeneted that love is NOTHING ! IT'S JUST EVERYTHING BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR MOM ,that seemed pretty plain but indeed is very interesting and thoughtful .

My guide at all times added that love is a DIVINE SELFLESS EMOTION WHICH HAS VARIOUS PAGES AND EXPRESSIONS ATTACHED TO IT LIKE CARE ,INSECURITY AND MAYBE JEALOUSY.But the main quality of it is "SACRIFISE FOR THE ONE YOU STRONGLY FEEL FOR ,WITHOUT EVEN THINKING ONCE".

She said it's NOT SELFISH and formost NEVER DIES at any situation .

SO WHAT IS LOVE ? IS IT A FEELING WHERE TRUST IS LOUDER THAT PROMISES ,WHERE UNDERSTANDING IS LOUDER THAN WORDS ,WHERE THE VERY EXISTENCE OF IT IS PROMINENT THAN EXPRESSION,or WHERE TEARS ARE LOUDER THAN SMILES,

I STILL DON'T KNOW .

But from all the suggestions and heartfelt replies -

IT'S ONE EMOTION THAT CAN MAKE YOU OR BREAK YOU ....

NOW,FROM WHAT I COULD FIGURE OUT : TRUE LOVE ALWAYS MAKES YOU BETTER WITH TIME ..!

Hindustan and Pakistan .... sons from the same mother .

Meet Jannat Ahmed , the daughter of designer called Shazia Ahmed from Lahore who I met during the Pakistani exhibition , last year , May 2011

“Bharat Mata Ki Jai” , “Hindustan  Zindabad” and “Vande Matram” were the three slogans a crowd of 500 people or more were chanting filling the air with a very patriotic and binding feeling .I sat there amongst the crowd , thanking god for blessing me with a V.I.P seat as I was getting a clearer view of the stadium on the other side of the gate ,I was happily able to see what I wanted to see – a glimpse of Pakistan. Pakistan the long lost brother of  our very own country India ,it’s history and how it came into being has always fascinated me and that’s the reason I have always wanted to visit Lahore .I was very charged up ever since the time I entered the WAGAH border ,I had tears and could remember all the stories my dad told me about his “Countering terrorism missions” while he was in the army .As I observed the people across the border ,the very fact that men and women were made to sit in different stadiums and only half of the humanity was cheering for their motherland made me understand the value of an Indian Citizenship  and the worry of my I-pod not being charged simply vanished away  .I was all in high spirits ,the blood in me gushing to my cheeks and I felt warm and completely energised .But just in the middle of my experience when I could picture the scenes of 1947 and  was in all favour of India from heart and soul ,I heard a faint voice that disturbed my endurance .It was none other than my 3year old sister Samara ,who rather was chanting on the top of her voice “JIYO JIYO PAKISTAN” . I was surprised listening to that ,and wanted to correct her immediately but as soon as I tried to do that she started to chant the Indian slogans . This innocent action of her triggered a deep thought in my mind .I realised how a child views everything around him ,for him we all are HUMANS ,no matter from India or Pakistan, following Hinduism or Islam or even wearing a burqa or a dress . So I decided to be more global and look into the differences and similarities between both the brothers .To my surprise when I dug into the differences I wasn’t even able to list a handfull  apart from the basic general ones which came because of the contrast functioning of the government and their ideologies .

Well many of you will say that women there are beaten ,suppressed and not respected but  India experiences all of this too , mainly it is all behind the curtains .Also the ever increasing rate of female infanticide and foeticide in our darling motherland signifies the amount of respect we have for our daughters . We may say that there is widespread poverty there but to that I have a firm reply that poverty is widespread in our nation as well ,with Asia’s largest ghetto located in Mumbai .Some of you might think that the Government in Pakistan is corrupted and about our Government the situation goes without saying .The hostile conditions of Pakistani hospitals must be revolving in your mind but the rural hospitals in India do not even have regular emergency wards. So what is the difference between India and Pakistan ?? To satisfy one part of my mind I think there is a huge distinction between the development levels of both the countries but still we all know that they both started from the same point.

With this all we can make out is that these two countries are filled with similarities .I mean they ought to behave like siblings , since they have been nurtured by the same mother .

Now when I think about the situation during the partition, I am forced to question that was it really the need of the hour or was it only a way of gaining power and achieving young political goals by two of the most famous leaders of both the nations : Mohammad. Ali Jinnah and Pandit  Jawarharlal Nehru.

Why is that the common man is always suffering at the cost of others ??

Is the bond of humanity so easy to be broken that some foreign power can manipulate and make all of us forget the glorious time we have had ??

Though I know the answer to my thought process is an appeal to be practical and logical but the entire play of the politicians and fanatics makes me  wonder that even after being free and living our own lives ,is the common man still being used to accomplish one’s selfish goals ??

WAKE UP , WE ARE ALL HUMANS ....!!

you are far above all this ...!!

Certain people are always looking for a chance to pick on you. Its like they hunt for it ,if they are aware that you are the one walking on a path where every step that you take is well thought of and that you avoid making regular mistakes, they will never leave a situation where they would get an opportunity to make your head bow. Hurting your self esteem or I may say your achieved ego is what they all look for, to gain sadistic pleasure ..Its like the way they look at you, sends chills in your spine and at times this happens with people who hold no grudge against the ones detesting them.

She did this to her AGAIN ,not for the first time but for the third. Repeating a mistake thrice in her school could lead to a person getting suspended ,But THIS was nothing to do with the school or it's rules. She picked her for the lamest of the things ,took her happiness to be a sign of diplomacy and her action to stand by the truth against her own thoughts which mind you went with what the world said and lacked basic maturity and substance.

She pointed out a silly mistake that the girl had made her in a proud tone , gladly smirking and eyes having that spark of hate towards the poor girl.

The girl had sensed her HATRED long time back but didn't want to be judgemental ,but that day her observation was proved right. She sat there ,looking at her infact staring to register that she DID IT AGAIN .She felt a sudden turmoil of emotions within but she still had that patent smile on ,somehow the curve saved her all the time .

She had already stabbed her a 50 times in her mind and wished to pull out the very reason of her satanic smirk. But then suddenly she could hear her inner voice calling ,and luckily she attended to it .After a moment she realised what a child she was being and quiety turned her face and with her head held high felt that SHE WAS FAR ABOVE ALL THIS .....

To this ,I say its amazing to see how one can outshine the BASIC HUMAN EMOTIONS ...

because no matter what and who you are ,remember YOU ARE FAR ABOVE ALL THIS ...!! :D

your terms define us !

Human beings are said to be social animals .Their existence is based on the level of dependency they share with people in and out of their busy lives. With this the point of one ENJOYING an individual identity has no place in the scene .We are all intricately interlinked while living or SURVIVING in a vast jungle of opportunities ,ambition and expectations .

Each one of us contributing to the fulfillment of the agenda in our very own special way .This network of different roles that we follow or posses takes us ,closer to the heavy word RESPONSIBILITY .RESPONSIBILITY towards the welfare of our kins ,friends or strangely acquaintances ,the society we are a part of and lastly Our position in it .

Now this responsibility that we have or volunteer for gives birth to our very dear 'EXPECTATIONS' .

Expectations from people we are related to ,love or care for or simply admire gives rise to a situation in which one starts seeing his/ her viewpoint as the FINAL WORD that has to be followed or believed in no matter what .

This is not an Utopian theory of mine ,who bases all her conclusions on Observations and which will determine how "WE" will be functioning a few years later. But sadly is the present way of how every single person is led by someone or the other on a path that THEY think is the best for the individual .

Some of us may brand it as Love or Concern ,but discarding one's way of living and being DICTATED to improve our ongoing state for our betterment gives NO JUSTIFICATION for one's lifestyle to be looked down upon everytime .

As we grow we are told to learn from daily experiences and preserve the lessons that we have learnt from them until life wants us to use them again .

During our initial years we are trained in a way to lead a very SYSTEMATIC life ,which subconsciously gets violated as one grows up .Certain regulations are undoubtedly essential but not to an extent that one starts feeling suffocated and starts doubting his/her own choices .

Now this doubt on one's OWN capability and decisiveness can lead  a person to DEPEND on somebody else or his terms to define things in his life !

NOW THE QUESTIONS ARISES ,ARE HUMANS REALLY LIVING THEIR "OWN LIFE" or WERE THEY BORN WITH INSTINCTS THAT ENCOURAGE THEM TO DEFINE TERMS FOR OTHERS .

Homosexuality ....start accepting !

Everything around us offers variety, that’s  why all of us are DIFFERENT , because our likes and dislikes are varied ,there is difference in our opinions and also there is a HUGE distinction in how we PERCIEVE life . But no matter how assorted all of us are, we all are binded together under a common term called HUMANITY .

We all are humans , irrespective of the fact that somebody is a girl or boy ,black or white ,hindu or muslim, gothic or preppy, straight or bisexual or maybe something else ,our ways of life or even our thinking cannot segregate one section of the society from the other . From a lot many years we have been hearing or rather experiencing cases of discrimination on the basis of caste ,colour and creed .If you were a BLACK or BROWN you were not considered fit to access the privileges of the fairer community .If you were a girl ,you were not considered INTELLEGENT enough to compete with the stronger sex.  We all brag about living in the TODAY’S time and proudly being a part of the 21^st century , which I presume would have opened our thinking capsule and brought a sense of equality towards ‘everybody’ in our minds.

Sadly , all of my presumptions are proved false by the ongoing conditions around me .Thankfully we have feminists and other social activists to fight against discrimination against women and the coloureds ,but what concerns me is that do we have ENOUGH support and a felling of acceptance for people who are generally graded as “THE THIRD SEX” ?

The answer to this is that, many of us calling ourselves advanced are scared of GAYS AND LESBIANS ,for reasons best known to individuals themselves .Many a times we would maintain distance from them just because they are not the ones belonging from the COMMON genders. I mean if we deeply look into the case, and analyse the differences between them and us all I can point out is the BASIC VARIENT that they are attracted to their own gender .The the weirdness of our reaction makes them fear to come out with the truth and live openly with their INDIVIDUAL IDENTITY.  Many of us would frown at the thought of someone known to us  being a gay but the question is that was this their own CHOICE ?

Tomorrow your son can be a gay to, does that mean you would behave the same way  like you would do NOW after meeting someone belonging to the third sex ? The good news is that now it has been legalised in our extremely cultured nation ,which found  HOMOSEXUALITY  as something corrupting the minds of the population .As a fact many kings of the historical legacy were gays, but were married to women to save the name of the family thus, spoiling an innocent girl’s life and therefore forcing her to enter into an extra marital relation .

I am grateful to people who made consensual sex between homosexuals LEGAL .I mean how can we CRIMINALIZE one’s physical demands and acts of satisfying them with someone who feels  the same.

It’s supposed to be a free world and in that, NARROW thoughts which  classify homosexuality as  vulgar and cheap have no place and room for survival .

THIS IS FOR ALL OF YOU, START EMPATHISING ,START ACCEPTING .......................

TOMORROW YOUR PRODUCE CAN BE A HOMOSEXUAL TOO AND IT ISN’T  SOMETHING TO FROWN ABOUT  BUT SOMETHING TO BE REFLECTED UPON ...

HOMOSEXUALS  ARE A VITAL PART OF THE HUMANITY ........